Just the other day, I was talking with a friend of mine about bullying and the attitude of schools toward the problem. We all would like to think that schools are there for the children. That they always want to help when a child or teen is relentlessly bullied. That their main interests are in the welfare of children.
As much as I hate to say it, though, sometimes this is not the reality.
Oftentimes, schools and school districts behave just like huge corporations, worrying only about their income and reputation. And in these cases, if there is a problem with bullying, the school more than likely just sweeps it under the rug instead of addressing the problem properly.
In these schools, the officials and staff would like for the public to think that they are investigating incidents of bullying—they may even tell the victim’s parents that an investigation is underway. But they say this only to pacify parents, to make them go away. And if the parent is relentless in protecting his or her child and keeps coming back, these schools label this parent as “that crazy mom” or “the pushy dad” just to avoid any perception that they are doing anything less that they should be.
The truth is, most schools simply do not investigate allegations of bullying because an investigation would take extra work on their part—and the last thing they want is extra work. I I saw it firsthand when I was in school, and I still hear about it today from frustrated parents and anti-bullying groups.
The main reason for this is that these educational institutions simply don’t want to admit that they have an issue of bullying on campus. They fear the reputations of their school could be tarnished and that such reports could affect their eligibility for government grants.
That is, they’re afraid of losing money.
These schools prefer to take the easy way out, either doing nothing at all, or far worse, blaming the target of the bullying. Some will even retaliate against the target for reporting the abuse to parents or writing about it!
Make no mistake. If your child is a victim of bullying, there is a chance the school might cop out on its responsibility to your child and by making your child—that’s right, the target of the bullying!—out to be the bully and then labeling him or her as the cause of the problem.
Please understand, I’m not labeling ALL schools this way. Some truly awesome and do confront bullying head-on. However, sadly, some don’t.
If your child is a victim, don’t take whatever the administrators feed you as gospel and don’t expect anything to be done on your child’s part—some schools will outright lie to cover their own backsides. Instead, quietly do your own investigation. It’s going to take more than reports of bullying and parent/teacher/principal meetings to address the problem. Laws against bullying do exist, but unfortunately, these laws are weak, and have to be revamped.
It’s going to take not only knowledge of the signs of bullying, but also knowledge of how bullies operate and the tactics they use. If we do nothing, we may never see the damage to kids, including the horrifying suicide rate among the bullied go away. It’s going to take bully-proofing our children, teaching them confidence, and building their self-esteem so they can stand up for themselves and others when confronted with bullying.
Cherie White, both a writer and author, joined the team after being discovered by Brian through her own personal blog and through social media. She has been writing ever since she was ten years old and has a love for writing articles, short stories and novels. She became intrigued with the new Pyngby app because it helps victims pinpoint victims and their harassers for easy protection and litigation if need be. Because she experienced severe bullying from sixth grade until changing schools during her last year of high school, she has a passion for spreading bullying awareness and helping those who are bullied and abused today. Her goal is to bring down the suicide rate among bullied children, teens and young adults. Her debut novel, “From Victim to Victor” is available now at LuLu. Cherie looks forward to helping victims through Watchdog Creative.
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