Males and Females Don’t Bully the Same, Part 2: Brute Force

Males and Females Don’t Bully the Same, Part 2: Brute Force

In Part 1 of this article, I discussed how male and female bullies differ in how they bully, and the ways female bullies work to oppress their targets, While female bullies attack their targets’ relationships, most male bullies use plain physical aggression. And not only

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Males and Females Don’t Bully the Same, Part 1: Deadlier Than The Male

Males and Females Don’t Bully the Same, Part 1: Deadlier Than The Male

(Part 1 of 2) We all know males and females are different, not just in their bodies but in their minds, the ways they interact, and the ways they form relationships. So, it should be no surprise that these male/female differences even extend to bullying.

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Good Reads for Victims of Bullying and Other Forms of Abuse

Good Reads for Victims of Bullying and Other Forms of Abuse

There are a number of great writers who’ve written great books that were of help to me when I was younger, working to escape bullying, and move on with my life.  I’d recommend any of these titles, not necessarily just to people facing bullying and abuse,

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The Positive Side to Having a Few Enemies

The Positive Side to Having a Few Enemies

What I’m about to tell you may leave you scratching your head. I know it left me scratching mine when my grandmother said it to me in the car one cold and rainy afternoon many years ago. We were coming home from shopping at the

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Why Bystanders Don’t Stand Up for Victims of Bullying

Why Bystanders Don’t Stand Up for Victims of Bullying

As we know, bullies need an audience when they bully their victims. Any time bystanders are near, the bully’s ego is fueled and the victim is made to suffer humiliation. Bullies need bystanders to demonstrate their perceived power and might in front of in order

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Bullied Girls Dating Grown Men: Getting the Acceptance They Don’t Get at School

Bullied Girls Dating Grown Men: Getting the Acceptance They Don’t Get at School

A girl who is bullied sometimes turns to older men as a means of obtaining acceptance and validation. When you’re a bullied young girl, having a boyfriend or sex partner can feel like such a welcome change from the pressure and pain of the bullying

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Under a Microscope

Under a Microscope

When a person is a target of bullying at school, everyone—and I mean everyone—is watching. Classmates (bullies and bystanders), teachers, and staff constantly have that poor target under surveillance, and it isn’t because they’re watching out for them. They’re all waiting for the victim to

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Don’t Give Up Your Happiness to Make a Bully Feel Better

Don’t Give Up Your Happiness to Make a Bully Feel Better

Never attempt to change yourself to appease a bully. If you’re a target of bullying, always remember this: no matter what you do, good or bad, it will never be right by a bully. Even if you were to save someone’s life, it still would

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Targets Can Become Bullies Themselves (Part 3)

Targets Can Become Bullies Themselves (Part 3)

In Part 1 and Part 2 of this article, I discussed the pain and shame a bully’s target feels and how it can lead to the target turning around and bullying others, and I admitted my own shameful experience. Today, I want to address all

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Targets Can Become Bullies Themselves (Part 2)

Targets Can Become Bullies Themselves (Part 2)

In Part 1 of this piece, I made the shameful confession that, even though I was bullied when I was young, I bullied others as a means to avoid feeling like I was at the very bottom of school pecking order. It’s nothing I’m proud

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