Don’t Give Up Your Happiness to Make a Bully Feel Better

Don’t Give Up Your Happiness to Make a Bully Feel Better

Never attempt to change yourself to appease a bully. If you’re a target of bullying, always remember this: no matter what you do, good or bad, it will never be right by a bully. Even if you were to save someone’s life, it still would

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Targets Can Become Bullies Themselves (Part 3)

Targets Can Become Bullies Themselves (Part 3)

In Part 1 and Part 2 of this article, I discussed the pain and shame a bully’s target feels and how it can lead to the target turning around and bullying others, and I admitted my own shameful experience. Today, I want to address all

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Targets Can Become Bullies Themselves (Part 2)

Targets Can Become Bullies Themselves (Part 2)

In Part 1 of this piece, I made the shameful confession that, even though I was bullied when I was young, I bullied others as a means to avoid feeling like I was at the very bottom of school pecking order. It’s nothing I’m proud

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Targets Can Become Bullies Themselves (Part 1)

Targets Can Become Bullies Themselves (Part 1)

This is—and always will be—very hard for me to admit. However, I feel an obligation to each and every bullied person to be truthful about how I, too, bullied others when I was in school. No one wants to admit that they were ever a

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The Reality Behind Reality Shows

The Reality Behind Reality Shows

The TV reality shows that receive the highest ratings also have the highest incidences of peer abuse—bullying. Peer abusers—bullies—love drama and are drawn to it like flies to feces! The more altercations and confrontations a reality show displays for viewers, the more drama it brings. More

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Telling Victims to “Toughen Up” is a Cop-Out!

Telling Victims to “Toughen Up” is a Cop-Out!

There’s a widely held belief that bullying toughens kids up. I think it’s one of the biggest cop-outs I ever hear. So, you’re a parent, grandparent, teacher, or principal and a child comes to you to report being bullied or harassed. You listen, and you

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The Harassment of Brandy Vela: When Bullies Cross the Line

The Harassment of Brandy Vela: When Bullies Cross the Line

Brandy Vela, a beautiful eighteen-year-old senior at Texas City High School, passed away by her own hand several months ago after relentless cyber-bullying by internet trolls who tormented her online about her weight and spread rumors about her. Believe it or not, her tragic death

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The Excuses Bystanders and People in Authority Make for a Bully

The Excuses Bystanders and People in Authority Make for a Bully

As we all know, bullies are very practiced and convincing liars, and they have a talent for using charm to deceive bystanders and authority. Understand that this “charm” bullies often display is only a tool to help out up a smokescreen to cover their bad

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Bullying Can Make or Break You—Life’s Too Short to Let It Break You!

Bullying Can Make or Break You—Life’s Too Short to Let It Break You!

If you have been there, you know that being the object of bullies is a hell that only few can comprehend. If you aren’t careful, it can very easily turn you from a kind and caring human being, to one of two things: An angry,

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When Bullying is Referred to as “Darwinism,” “Natural Selection,” or “Survival of the Fittest”

When Bullying is Referred to as “Darwinism,” “Natural Selection,” or “Survival of the Fittest”

I cringe any time I hear people refer to bullying as “Darwinism,” “Natural Selection,” or “Survival of the Fittest” and he words that immediately flash to my mind are “cop out,” “trivializing,” and “excuses.” People who duck behind these rationalizations are implying: Bullying is completely normal

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