Regardless of what your bullies may tell you, despite the grand pictures they paint of their own accomplishment, in reality, they’re no better than anyone else—They’re only better at being faking success and hiding their failures.
Bullies have to prove themselves to everyone constantly.
Their so-called popularity is based on lies. Most bullies aren’t leaders—they’re followers, and they want everyone else to be like them. So they lie, and put up fronts to be cool. They work very hard and expend a lot of emotional energy to maintain those facades.
And they’re only good at faking it because most of them have been doing it their entire lives. In fact (sadly!) may have parents who do the same, so their faking-through things just seems natural to them.
So when they meet someone genuine—genuinely capable, with genuine ability—they hate it because they’re secretly jealous. After all, it takes a lot of effort to keep up a facade of competence and likeability, so believe it or not, they’re actually frustrated by someone who has it naturally.
And they put you down to get you “back in your place.”
It’s worst when the bully fears there’s a crack in his or her facade and the real person behind the mask might be seen.
It sounds strange, but the bully comes after you because he or she has so much to lose. Bullies have no real personalities, and they know that, any moment, you might expose them, even accidentally. You see, in spite of how it feels to you, you are the one with the real power, the power to show everyone who the bully is behind the mask. But you don’t know that, and the bully counts on keeping you focused on the bullying so that you can’t expose him or her to everyone else.
Picking on you is a distraction, keeping others from seeing the bully’s flaws by focusing everyone on yours. By keeping you pinned down by robbing you of self-esteem and confidence, the bully keeps you from exposing him or her—what bullies fear is that you will turn everyone against them and knock them straight to the bottom of the social hierarchy.
The bully just as scared as you are.
They’re only better at concealing it! I’ve given you a peek under the bully’s mask. Keep it in mind when you face a bully, and use it if you have to!
Cherie White, both a writer and author, joined the team after being discovered by Brian through her own personal blog and through social media. She has been writing ever since she was ten years old and has a love for writing articles, short stories and novels. She became intrigued with the new Pyngby app because it helps victims pinpoint victims and their harassers for easy protection and litigation if need be. Because she experienced severe bullying from sixth grade until changing schools during her last year of high school, she has a passion for spreading bullying awareness and helping those who are bullied and abused today. Her goal is to bring down the suicide rate among bullied children, teens and young adults. Her debut novel, “From Victim to Victor” is available now at LuLu. Cherie looks forward to helping victims through Watchdog Creative.
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