Ever wonder why bullies work so hard to turn their targets’ friends and everyone else against them?
“Few are drawn to the person whom others avoid or neglect; people gather around those who have already attracted interest.”
—Robert Greene, The Art of Seduction
It’s human nature to want to be near someone who appears highly desired by others and to avoid those who are outside any social group. People have always tended to assume loners are unwanted or somehow defective, that they’re rejects. Even unconsciously, bullies understand this, which is why they stop at nothing to turn everyone against their poor target’s—friends, teachers, principals, bosses, and sometimes even members of the target’s own family!
They do this to validate their lies and rumors, making the deception more convincing by making the target appear undesirable. The bully knows that the more friends and associates the victim has, the more support the victim receives—and the more accountability the bully faces should anyone in authority intervene.
I want you to know that if you are the target of a bully, this isolation you’re facing is only part of the illusion you bully creates, to keep other from your side and shield the bully from the repercussions of his or her ugly behaviors and secrets coming to light! As beat-down as you may feel, you are a major threat to your bully (who would never admit that!). I can’t stress to you enough that you are not the one who has the issue!
You are not what they say you are! You are not the person bullies make you out to be to others. You are awesome, beautiful and intelligent—even if others try to convince you that you’re the opposite. Believe me, it may not seem like it now, but there will come a day when you will have genuine friends who love you simply for being you!
You are worth fighting for! Don’t give up on yourself!
It does get better!
Cherie White, both a writer and author, joined the team after being discovered by Brian through her own personal blog and through social media. She has been writing ever since she was ten years old and has a love for writing articles, short stories and novels. She became intrigued with the new Pyngby app because it helps victims pinpoint victims and their harassers for easy protection and litigation if need be. Because she experienced severe bullying from sixth grade until changing schools during her last year of high school, she has a passion for spreading bullying awareness and helping those who are bullied and abused today. Her goal is to bring down the suicide rate among bullied children, teens and young adults. Her debut novel, “From Victim to Victor” is available now at LuLu. Cherie looks forward to helping victims through Watchdog Creative.
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