Different Bullies, Different Bullying

Different Bullies, Different Bullying

(Note: This post is the first in a series I’ll come back to periodically. My goal here is to help you see that there’s no one solution to bullying because there’s no one kind of bully.)

Every bully is different. Depending on who they are, their experience, and their reason to bully, they do it in different ways—unfortunately, there’s more than just one style of bullying. These include:

  • Physical Bullying – shoving, hitting, kicking, choking, hair-pulling…any bullying that involves physical touch. Physical bullying is the most obvious, and because of that it’s both the easiest to spot and the easiest to stop (not that it’s easy, mind you). Although the physical aspects make it the quickest to heal in terms of bodily injury, the psychological and emotional aspects can sometimes take much, much longer to heal.
  • Verbal bullying – Name-calling, yelling, cursing out, derision, taunts…this is bullying by the spoken word. Harder to spot sometimes than physical bullying it’s also harder to stop and harder to heal. (Whoever said “Words can’t hurt you” was never bullied this way…)
  • Social Bullying – Attacks on the victim’s personal relationships. The hardest to see and this the hardest to stop, this type of bullying is done through gossip (spreading rumors lying about the victim) and exclusion (leaving the victim out of anything social or telling others not to associate with the victim). It’s one of the hardest to identify and stop because it’s so hard to see other than for the pain it causes. And by far, it’s the worst and most vicious form of bullying because by design it cuts the victim off from any sources of friendship and support—the two things the victim needs most to escape it  Bullies bully this way to hide what they’re doing by placing the blame on the victim—teachers, parents, and other adults are made to believe the victim is the problem and simply “unpopular” and trying to blame “their problem”” on others. Once the victim receives this blame, it’s a domino effect of increased isolation and dwindling support as more and more people turn away from him or her, freeing the bully further to do with the victim as he or she pleases, without consequences.

About the Author

Cherie White

Cherie White, both a writer and author, joined the team after being discovered by Brian through her own personal blog and through social media. She has been writing ever since she was ten years old and has a love for writing articles, short stories and novels. She became intrigued with the new Pyngby app because it helps victims pinpoint victims and their harassers for easy protection and litigation if need be. Because she experienced severe bullying from sixth grade until changing schools during her last year of high school, she has a passion for spreading bullying awareness and helping those who are bullied and abused today. Her goal is to bring down the suicide rate among bullied children, teens and young adults. Her debut novel, “From Victim to Victor” is available now at LuLu. Cherie looks forward to helping victims through Watchdog Creative.

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