Sometimes, Taking Care of Yourself Means Making Some Very Hard (Even Heartbreaking) Decisions

Sometimes, Taking Care of Yourself Means Making Some Very Hard (Even Heartbreaking) Decisions

Once you choose not to be a target anymore, you must realize that you may have to make very tough, even heartbreaking, decisions.

You will more than likely have to weed certain people out of your life for good. Sadly, some of those people may even be people who you love very much. You can still love them—nothing wrong with that. But as much as you may love them, they are not always healthy for you to be around.

I had to make such a decision about a family member twenty years ago. And let me tell you, it was a very painful decision. When we stopped talking, I missed my family member—No, worse, I mourned the person deeply. Even after all the cutting remarks they had made toward me and toward others I loved, I still mourned. It was like a death in the family.

For two years, we did not speak to each another nor were we welcome in each other’s homes. During those two years, from time to time, I would pass this person by in the supermarket, the gas station, or driving on the road somewhere. No “Hi! How are you?” No honk and wave. Nothing. We would both just turn our heads and go about our business. And I would feel my heart sink into my stomach and fight back tears knowing that there was a possibility that we would never speak again.

There was always that dreadful “Could I have done something different” feeling, and feelings of guilt that emerged, even when I knew I had done the best that I possibly could.

Many of you may be going through something similar. Do not lose heart.

Your relationship with your estranged loved one is still repairable. I am blessed to be able to say that my story has a very happy ending.

After another family member had taken ill, I received a call from my estranged loved one. In a long exchange, we reconciled, apologized, and forgave each another. After that, I made sure to be there to lend a helping hand in taking care of our sick family member. Through that, the two of us became close again.

Now, we are closer than ever! We visit, we talk on the phone, and most importantly, we never hesitate to tell each other how much we love each other. From this, I learned a very powerful lesson: Sometimes, it takes a separation to bring people even closer.

It doesn’t make much sense at first. But walking away, although painful when it happens, can be a great thing and produce awesome results later on. Any time you walk away, your value to each other is likely to go up. In time, you both learn to respect the other, and you love each other even more than you did before.

 




About the Author

Cherie White

Cherie White, both a writer and author, joined the team after being discovered by Brian through her own personal blog and through social media. She has been writing ever since she was ten years old and has a love for writing articles, short stories and novels. She became intrigued with the new Pyngby app because it helps victims pinpoint victims and their harassers for easy protection and litigation if need be. Because she experienced severe bullying from sixth grade until changing schools during her last year of high school, she has a passion for spreading bullying awareness and helping those who are bullied and abused today. Her goal is to bring down the suicide rate among bullied children, teens and young adults. Her debut novel, “From Victim to Victor” is available now at LuLu. Cherie looks forward to helping victims through Watchdog Creative.

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