The Excuses Bystanders and People in Authority Make for a Bully

The Excuses Bystanders and People in Authority Make for a Bully

As we all know, bullies are very practiced and convincing liars, and they have a talent for using charm to deceive bystanders and authority. Understand that this “charm” bullies often display is only a tool to help out up a smokescreen to cover their bad behavior and help them deflect blame and avoid punishment.

Some are so skilled at this that bystanders and even authorities often end up making excuses for the bully any time a victim reports the bullying:

  • “That’s just his personality.”
  • “She’s only expressing herself.”
  • “He just has a very strong personality.”
  • “She’s going through a hard time right now.”
  • “But he’s really a good person, he’s just having issues right now.”
  • “She’s just having problems at home.”
  • “He’s just being himself.”
  • “But he’s so well liked and well mannered. Why would he bully someone like you?”
  • “But she’s so sweet and everyone loves her. She wouldn’t hurt a fly.”
  • “You’re only having a ‘personality conflict’.”

These are many more examples of how others justify and condone the bully’s behavior.  There are many, many more.

When you find yourself being bullied, call it what it is and never accept any excuse, not from friends, teachers, supervisors, or coaches. Yes, retaliation may follow. You, though, should stay strong—know that you don’t have to tolerate atrocious behavior from anyone!

About the Author

Cherie White

Cherie White, both a writer and author, joined the team after being discovered by Brian through her own personal blog and through social media. She has been writing ever since she was ten years old and has a love for writing articles, short stories and novels. She became intrigued with the new Pyngby app because it helps victims pinpoint victims and their harassers for easy protection and litigation if need be. Because she experienced severe bullying from sixth grade until changing schools during her last year of high school, she has a passion for spreading bullying awareness and helping those who are bullied and abused today. Her goal is to bring down the suicide rate among bullied children, teens and young adults. Her debut novel, “From Victim to Victor” is available now at LuLu. Cherie looks forward to helping victims through Watchdog Creative.

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