It’s Not Just in Your Mind: You Know When Something Feels Wrong 

It’s Not Just in Your Mind: You Know When Something Feels Wrong 

The targets of bullying often face confusion…the confusion of whether or not they are being oversensitive or actually being bullied. Oftentimes, when the bullied defend themselves, others trivialize what they experienced or outright dismiss it. They tell the victim, “It’s only in your mind” or

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Stand Up and Don’t Back Down

Stand Up and Don’t Back Down

Classmates, Coworkers, and Friends, I am a freshman in college. I did my four years in public high school. I was the guy the jocks tolerated but did not consider a friend. I played football and ran track for a few years. I watched bullying

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Bullying and Crimes Against Anyone with Autism, Asperger’s, or Special Needs Should be Considered Hate Crime!

Bullying and Crimes Against Anyone with Autism, Asperger’s, or Special Needs Should be Considered Hate Crime!

For months, I’ve wanted to speak out about people on the Autism Spectrum and the extremely high rates of victimization and bullying they endure daily. It’s bad enough that they struggle with a disability that they neither asked for nor have any control over; It’s

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What’s a Bully to Do Without a Victim?

What’s a Bully to Do Without a Victim?

What if I told you that bullying doesn’t exist—unless there is a victim? What if I told you that if we could shrink the pool of victims, the number of bullies might also decrease? Stopping bullying isn’t only about holding bullies accountable. It’s also about

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Telltale Signs a Teen is the Target of Bullying

Telltale Signs a Teen is the Target of Bullying

Bullied teens are often silent about the torment they face in school, due to shame or embarrassment. Parents are often not even aware that there is a problem. If you are wondering whether or not your son or daughter is a target of bullying, here

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Cyber-bullying: The Most Devastating Kind of Bullying

Cyber-bullying: The Most Devastating Kind of Bullying

I’m fortunate enough to have grown up in a time when cyber-bullying didn’t exist. When I was in school, “street bullying” or “playground bullying” were the types of bullying targets of my generation had to endure. “Street bullying” happens face-to-face. It happens on the playground,

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Sometimes, a Jerk is Just a Jerk: The Difference Between a Bully and a Jerk

Sometimes, a Jerk is Just a Jerk: The Difference Between a Bully and a Jerk

Oftentimes, we run into people who are just rude and unpleasant jerks. But just being rude to us, just treating us hurtfully, just making us wish they’d go away does not make them bullies. All bullies, regardless of age, deep down at their core are

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Sometimes, Taking Care of Yourself Means Making Some Very Hard (Even Heartbreaking) Decisions

Sometimes, Taking Care of Yourself Means Making Some Very Hard (Even Heartbreaking) Decisions

Once you choose not to be a target anymore, you must realize that you may have to make very tough, even heartbreaking, decisions. You will more than likely have to weed certain people out of your life for good. Sadly, some of those people may

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No One Talks About It: Female Bully vs. Male Victim

No One Talks About It: Female Bully vs. Male Victim

One situation almost no one talks about—and is too often ignored—is female bullying against a male victim. Adding insult to that injury, society almost always gives male victims of such bullying a bum rap. I cannot count the stories I’ve both read and been told about males

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Why Teachers and School Officials Sometimes Ignore a Bullied Student’s Cries for Help

Why Teachers and School Officials Sometimes Ignore a Bullied Student’s Cries for Help

All too often, schools ignore reports of bullying, leaving the victim with no one to turn to for help. When I was in school and a victim of vicious harassment, my reports were dismissed by the staff at school and I felt helpless…I felt like a

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