If you notice your young student’s grades suddenly drop, or hear from a teacher that he or she is no longer participating in class as before, or find he or she is increasingly making excuses not to go to school or maybe even cutting class, it may well be that he or she is suffering from being bullied.
Every day, tens of thousands of victims stay home from school for fear of being bullied. Their grades plummet and their educational progress suffers.
Thirty years ago, I was one of those unfortunate students. Unless you’ve been on the receiving end of such vicious torment, it’s almost impossible to comprehend the intense fear that washes through you just getting out of bed in the morning for school. Many mornings, I experienced queasiness in my stomach and a hard, sore lump in my throat as I stood at the corner and watched the school bus approach. My palms were sweaty. My legs shook. Headaches nearly blinded me. My heart pounded against my chest like it was trying to get out. I went through it all.
It felt much safer just to stay home.
Victims of bullying feel like they have a target on their back. Always waiting for the next bad thing, they are in a constant state of alert, like a rabbit under a bush who knows there’s an owl up in the trees somewhere. In such a continuous fight-or-flight mode, it’s impossible to learn—you can’t focus on lessons and studies when your mind is constantly racing to figure out ways you can protect yourself.
Owls cast a long shadow when you’re a rabbit.
Parents, teachers, counselors, principals—anyone who reads this—when you see such changes in student, please ask questions. And do it patiently. You never know what a student might be up against.
And it’s hard to focus on your studies when you know an owl is waiting to sweep in and get you.
Cherie White, both a writer and author, joined the team after being discovered by Brian through her own personal blog and through social media. She has been writing ever since she was ten years old and has a love for writing articles, short stories and novels. She became intrigued with the new Pyngby app because it helps victims pinpoint victims and their harassers for easy protection and litigation if need be. Because she experienced severe bullying from sixth grade until changing schools during her last year of high school, she has a passion for spreading bullying awareness and helping those who are bullied and abused today. Her goal is to bring down the suicide rate among bullied children, teens and young adults. Her debut novel, “From Victim to Victor” is available now at LuLu. Cherie looks forward to helping victims through Watchdog Creative.
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