First things first: I would like to apologize for missing the weeks’ blog posts here. I’ve been feeling a bit under the weather and have been resting. Thank you all for the prayers.
So, on to this week’s post. At different times in my life, I have either met, or been around certain people my inner alarm tried to warn me about. The only way I can describe this feeling is to say that each of these people seemed to be…off…and I’d get this sinking, creepy feeling whenever I was around them. Literally, deep in my gut I could feel the bad vibes pouring forth from them.
When I was young, I’d tell myself I was “just being paranoid” and I’d ignore the feeling. A whopping majority of bullying victims do this. And it proved, to my disappointment, to be true.
And every time, I learned that if I’d only listened to my gut and avoided these people, I could have saved myself a truckload of heartache.
So know this: God gave you that sixth sense—more commonly called instinct or gut feeling—for a reason, and any time you get a bad feeling in your gut about someone, you aren’t being paranoid and you aren’t overreacting. It’s your inner alarm trying to warn you and keep you safe.
In my book, From Victim to Victor I explain my experience with gut feeling:
“…My gut feeling warned me many times about my classmate’s personalities or that someone was about to harm me in some way, shape or form. I did not listen to my innate alarm because the faith in my own intuitive abilities had been shattered. As a result, I often mistook it for being overly suspicious.”
This uncertainty led me to become a very mean and vicious person. As a result, I often repelled the people who had my best interests at heart, who were genuine and would have otherwise been true friends. I missed out on a lot of opportunities for friendship because not listening to my gut very quickly brought me to a place where I trusted no one. It was much safer to put up a barrier and keep out everyone—including my own family—than it was to take risks and learn how to trust the right people.
Being bullied, along with all the stress and labels it comes with, causes you to not believe in yourself and your own abilities. As it did to me, it zaps your sense of who is for real and who is fake, blinding you to the people who are true and taking your ability to avoid dangerous people.
Again, as I explain in From Victim to Victor:
“You are not stupid. It is not only in your imagination. You are not being overly-sensitive. You are not being a wimp, wuss, crybaby, crazy or whatever else unsavory people call you. You always know when something does not feel good. You can see it in the way certain people cut their eyes at you and talk through their teeth. You can hear the short and cold tone in their voices. You can feel, deep down in your gut, the nasty vibes they exude. Therefore, you should always listen to your gut feeling because it is never wrong. Eighty-six those people pronto!”
Never ignore your gut instinct, and never overlook that sinking feeling in your stomach—it not only can save you so much trouble, it can even save your life!
Cherie White, both a writer and author, joined the team after being discovered by Brian through her own personal blog and through social media. She has been writing ever since she was ten years old and has a love for writing articles, short stories and novels. She became intrigued with the new Pyngby app because it helps victims pinpoint victims and their harassers for easy protection and litigation if need be. Because she experienced severe bullying from sixth grade until changing schools during her last year of high school, she has a passion for spreading bullying awareness and helping those who are bullied and abused today. Her goal is to bring down the suicide rate among bullied children, teens and young adults. Her debut novel, “From Victim to Victor” is available now at LuLu. Cherie looks forward to helping victims through Watchdog Creative.
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