“The enemy of my enemy is my friend” says the age-old proverb that’s guided war and politics for centuries.
It can help guide you when dealing with a bully, too.
If you’re the target of any bully, rest assured that you’re neither the first nor the only poor soul he or she has victimized. Which means, your bully has enemies. Lots of them.
Only you may not know it because it because bullies maintain the facade that they are the greatest thing to walk the earth, some kind of cosmic gift to humanity that everyone adores.
But every bit of it is a lie.
Although what I’m about to advise is a little underhanded, it will certainly help you get the bullies off your back. Social science has long proved that comradeship is born when two or more people can find something (or someone) they dislike…a common enemy that they all can unite against.
Find out who your bully has wronged (it’s probably a long list). Connect with them, and befriend them. Make sure you have their backs, and they’ll have yours—in short, unite with them as allies. I guarantee, whoever the other targets of your bully are, they’ll be more than happy to oblige and instantly become your comrades in your struggle.
It worked in World War II.
Always, there’s strength in numbers. The more of your bullies’ enemies you can make your friends, the more protection and support you will gather to keep the bullies at bay. Remember, bullies are cowards. Like wolves, they almost always pursue the ones they can pick off from the rest of the herd, either the weak or the ones who stray too far from the group. So, become friends with as many of your bullies’ enemies as possible, and the bullying will stop. Why?
Why do herds work in Nature? Strength in numbers.
Bullies never attack anyone who is surrounded and liked by others who protect and look out for them. Just like a wolf that gets stomped by bison when they try attack their herd, your bullies will go find someone else to run down and leave you alone. How I wish I’d thought of treating bullies like the mangy predators they are back when I was in school—things would have been a lot different!
You are worth fighting for! Don’t give up! There are always options! And this is only one!
Cherie White, both a writer and author, joined the team after being discovered by Brian through her own personal blog and through social media. She has been writing ever since she was ten years old and has a love for writing articles, short stories and novels. She became intrigued with the new Pyngby app because it helps victims pinpoint victims and their harassers for easy protection and litigation if need be. Because she experienced severe bullying from sixth grade until changing schools during her last year of high school, she has a passion for spreading bullying awareness and helping those who are bullied and abused today. Her goal is to bring down the suicide rate among bullied children, teens and young adults. Her debut novel, “From Victim to Victor” is available now at LuLu. Cherie looks forward to helping victims through Watchdog Creative.
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