When a person is a target of bullying at school, everyone—and I mean everyone—is watching. Classmates (bullies and bystanders), teachers, and staff constantly have that poor target under surveillance, and it isn’t because they’re watching out for them.
They’re all waiting for the victim to screw up.
First, bullies are very skilled and convincing liars and they are full of deceptive charm. This impresses bystanders and authorities and wins the bullies lots of influence so that, over time, these influential bullies have spread numerous rumors and lies about the target to others that are believed because, especially in small communities, people have a tendency to believe the worst. As a result, the victim, who has done absolutely nothing wrong, is labeled “trouble.” And once the victim’s reputation is set in stone this way, it’s almost impossible to change it. This is sadly why people who are victims usually stay victims until they can finally escape through transfer to another school or home schooling.
Second, many people simply don’t question the lies because they don’t want to anger the bullies. Besides, questioning a rumor would require digging for the truth, and most simply don’t to put in the effort.
And third, bullies constantly stalk their victim online and offline. They search for information about the target, finding their physical address, phone number, email and social media profiles just to further harass the target. Using these resources, they will dig for information about the victim’s family, romantic partner, friends, and any other associates so they can wreak havoc on the victim’s relationships. They may also try to identify places the target may frequent (clubs, parks, wherever they go on the weekend) so they can “accidently”) run into the target and create opportunities for further harassment, or worse, commit a physical assault. It is nothing less than petrifying, when it seems your every move is spied on and checked. I’ve been there and let me tell you, it was downright creepy!
If you are a victim of bullying, I understand how frustrating and heartbreaking it is. I know the pain of being falsely labeled, and I know all too well the intense fear of being hurt. Please know that you are not alone! There are millions of others who suffer the same as you. You aren’t the first, and sadly, you won’t be the last. Please know you can overcome your bullies and move on to better things—I did! And I did not just survive, I triumphed and you can too! Don’t give up! You’re worth fighting for!
Cherie White, both a writer and author, joined the team after being discovered by Brian through her own personal blog and through social media. She has been writing ever since she was ten years old and has a love for writing articles, short stories and novels. She became intrigued with the new Pyngby app because it helps victims pinpoint victims and their harassers for easy protection and litigation if need be. Because she experienced severe bullying from sixth grade until changing schools during her last year of high school, she has a passion for spreading bullying awareness and helping those who are bullied and abused today. Her goal is to bring down the suicide rate among bullied children, teens and young adults. Her debut novel, “From Victim to Victor” is available now at LuLu. Cherie looks forward to helping victims through Watchdog Creative.
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