Workplace bullying is no different than high school bullying. The bullies use the same tactics to discredit and destroy their victims—baiting, bashing and blaming, mobbing, rumor-spreading, and yes, even physical assault.
Just like school bullies, workplace bullies have a real flare for escaping accountability and doing their dirt covertly. They’re very convincing liars, skilled at the art of deception—superficial charm, kissing up to those in authority or with social capital, and using doublespeak and euphemisms to hide their wrongdoing.
In a nutshell, they’re sociopaths.
They’re sociopaths who are quite talented at making their victim look guilty by feigning victimhood themselves (crying, reasoning, rationalization, gaslighting, lying). And they’re good at it. Which is why you should always keep records of the bullying you encounter on the job.
Although I was bullied in school, when I was young I got along awesomely with everyone at work, I never had to deal with workplace bullying until I was in my late thirties and took a job at a nursing home. It felt as if I were back in high school again! There were the cliques there, just like in school, and there was nepotism, favoritism, and a vicious bias against those perceived as less than everyone else. The facility also had a ridiculously high turnover rate—a classic sign of rampant bullying in a workplace. Because I had already experienced it all in high school, I knew what to do. And was able to stay one step ahead of the bullies and come out of the situation unscathed.
You can survive a hostile work environment and come out of it a winner. Here’s the strategy I used:
By watching my own back, I was able to stay there as long as I needed to get a few goals met. Then I quit the job and left on my own terms, moving on to a better work environment with wonderful and genuine people.
Cherie White, both a writer and author, joined the team after being discovered by Brian through her own personal blog and through social media. She has been writing ever since she was ten years old and has a love for writing articles, short stories and novels. She became intrigued with the new Pyngby app because it helps victims pinpoint victims and their harassers for easy protection and litigation if need be. Because she experienced severe bullying from sixth grade until changing schools during her last year of high school, she has a passion for spreading bullying awareness and helping those who are bullied and abused today. Her goal is to bring down the suicide rate among bullied children, teens and young adults. Her debut novel, “From Victim to Victor” is available now at LuLu. Cherie looks forward to helping victims through Watchdog Creative.
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