Your Reputation Precedes You: How Targets of Bullying Can Become Known as the “Bad Guys”

Your Reputation Precedes You: How Targets of Bullying Can Become Known as the “Bad Guys”

Here’s something I’m sure almost no one has pointed out: Bullying often has a “trickle-down” effect on victims. What I mean by this is: A target is harassed to get a reaction. Bullies trash-talk the target, call the target names—basically put the target down, especially

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A Message to My Former School Bullies—Part 1: The Difference Between Me and You

A Message to My Former School Bullies—Part 1: The Difference Between Me and You

To all of you who bullied me back in school— Sure, who didn’t make a lot of mistakes and poor choices in their youth? I did, just as you did. The difference between me and you, however, is that I’m woman enough to admit my

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Bullies Are No Better Than Anyone—They’re Just Better at Faking It

Bullies Are No Better Than Anyone—They’re Just Better at Faking It

Regardless of what your bullies may tell you, despite the grand pictures they paint of their own accomplishment, in reality, they’re no better than anyone else—They’re only better at being faking success and hiding their failures. Bullies have to prove themselves to everyone constantly. Their

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Writing Got Me Through My Pain to Help Others Who Are Suffering (Part 2)

Writing Got Me Through My Pain to Help Others Who Are Suffering (Part 2)

In Part 1, I explained how I took to writing when I was young to help myself through the desperate pain of being bullied in school. During the second half of the nineties, I began researching bullying online. I was amazed when everything I read

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Writing Got Me Through My Pain to Help Others Who Are Suffering (Part 1)

Writing Got Me Through My Pain to Help Others Who Are Suffering (Part 1)

For those who don’t know, for me, the last six years of school were Hell on Earth—as they are for so many children and teens today. Each time I hear on the news about a young person who has committed suicide because of bullying, it

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The Best Revenge: Life Will Just Get Better and Better for You, Not for Your Bullies — Part 2: You Get to Rule in the Big Pool

The Best Revenge: Life Will Just Get Better and Better for You, Not for Your Bullies — Part 2: You Get to Rule in the Big Pool

In Part 1, I discussed how bullies rule in the Kiddie Pool of Life. Today, let’s look at how you get to live your life int he Big Pool with the other adults. For most bullies, high school is literally the highlight of their lives.

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The Best Revenge: Life Will Just Get Better and Better for You, Not for Your Bullies — Part 1: Kings and Queens of the Kiddie Pool

The Best Revenge: Life Will Just Get Better and Better for You, Not for Your Bullies — Part 1: Kings and Queens of the Kiddie Pool

High school really is child’s play. It’s the kiddie pool of life, if you will. Your bullies have it good now, but most often, graduation means the end of the line for them. I say this because most of my former school bullies—the popular ones,

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A Detailed Description of the Pain and Torment Endured By Targets of Bullying (Part 2)

A Detailed Description of the Pain and Torment Endured By Targets of Bullying (Part 2)

In Part 1, I detailed the day of a bullied student, the pain that stretched from getting up in the morning ’til lunch. Now, let me show you the rest of the day. After lunch, the torment escalates to a full blown brawl. In the

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A Detailed Description of the Pain and Torment Endured By Targets of Bullying (Part 1)

A Detailed Description of the Pain and Torment Endured By Targets of Bullying (Part 1)

I don’t think people who have not experienced being targeted by bullying truly understand what those of us who have been are forced to endure. This is a two-part post, and it will still be a little long, so please bear with me… When it

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A Message from One of the Ones Left Behind

A Message from One of the Ones Left Behind

You know by now I’m passionate about the epidemic of bullying and suicide among children and teenagers because I faced the same thing in my youth. I felt the crushing weight of bullying, and the desperate and dark thoughts that seemed my only way to

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