Workplace Bullying: What It Looks Like, How to Deal With It

Workplace Bullying: What It Looks Like, How to Deal With It

Workplace bullying is no different than high school bullying. The bullies use the same tactics to discredit and destroy their victims—baiting, bashing and blaming, mobbing, rumor-spreading, and yes, even physical assault. Just like school bullies, workplace bullies have a real flare for escaping accountability and

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Suicide is NEVER the Solution! (Part 1)

Suicide is NEVER the Solution! (Part 1)

(Part 1 of 3) Last year, the suicide of Destiny Gleason drew media attention last year, driving home the sad truth of an epidemic of suicide among young people due to bullying and abuse. What I cannot stress enough is that suicide is totally fruitless

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Why Bystanders Don’t Stand Up for Victims of Bullying

Why Bystanders Don’t Stand Up for Victims of Bullying

As we know, bullies need an audience when they bully their victims. Any time bystanders are near, the bully’s ego is fueled and the victim is made to suffer humiliation. Bullies need bystanders to demonstrate their perceived power and might in front of in order

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Targets Can Become Bullies Themselves (Part 3)

Targets Can Become Bullies Themselves (Part 3)

In Part 1 and Part 2 of this article, I discussed the pain and shame a bully’s target feels and how it can lead to the target turning around and bullying others, and I admitted my own shameful experience. Today, I want to address all

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Targets Can Become Bullies Themselves (Part 2)

Targets Can Become Bullies Themselves (Part 2)

In Part 1 of this piece, I made the shameful confession that, even though I was bullied when I was young, I bullied others as a means to avoid feeling like I was at the very bottom of school pecking order. It’s nothing I’m proud

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The Harassment of Brandy Vela: When Bullies Cross the Line

The Harassment of Brandy Vela: When Bullies Cross the Line

Brandy Vela, a beautiful eighteen-year-old senior at Texas City High School, passed away by her own hand several months ago after relentless cyber-bullying by internet trolls who tormented her online about her weight and spread rumors about her. Believe it or not, her tragic death

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Sometimes, Taking Care of Yourself Means Making Some Very Hard (Even Heartbreaking) Decisions

Sometimes, Taking Care of Yourself Means Making Some Very Hard (Even Heartbreaking) Decisions

Once you choose not to be a target anymore, you must realize that you may have to make very tough, even heartbreaking, decisions. You will more than likely have to weed certain people out of your life for good. Sadly, some of those people may

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How Pyngby can help your counseling practice

How Pyngby can help your counseling practice

Perhaps you have experienced something like this in your organization or counseling practice:  In the same day (actually within two hours of each other!) we had a situation involving Suicidal Ideation (SI) and a situation involving Homicidal Ideation (HI). The individual struggling with SI was a new intake client

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